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Thursday, November 20, 2014

Abstaining from Sex Until Marriage (Part 7: EMPOWERMENT vs. embarrassment)

Part 7: EMPOWERMENT vs. embarrassment

I chose to abstain from sex until I got married because I believe preserving virginity is not just for women, it is equally applied to men. Was it easy?, I was hoping, but it was not, and I am thankful I was able to surpassed this. I believe that my wife and I will not be victorious without the help of God. Yes, It is God all along, I tried to avoid being spiritual here but all these things goes back to God.

It is empowering to know that God is with us every step of the way so things become easier. I believe it is a man's responsibility to preserve the purity of his partner by NOT asking and it is the woman's  responsibility to say NO when the man asked. It goes both ways.

Abstaining from sex will prevent you from possible embarrassment due to unintended pregnancy. The best thing to do to avoid unintended pregnancy, worries and emotional issues is to abstain from sex, period. It will be beneficial to both of you knowing that your relationship is not just for sexual satisfaction.

It doesn't matter if your friends will ridicule you because you chose to abstain from sex until marriage as long as you know that it is the right thing to do. God will surely strengthen you, guide you and empower you.

In the end, it is still a choice but choose wisely.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Abstaining from Sex Until Marriage (Part 6: COMMITMENT vs. control)

Part 6: COMMITMENT vs. Control

"You may now kiss the bride" ,the priest said this word after every wedding ceremony and it means "You now have God's  blessings, go, and multiply".

I believe that the prerequisite of having sex with someone is to have a commitment. A commitment to do it with only one person within the boundary of marriage. Sex is a benefit for married people.

The problem with today's society is sex becomes casual, sex becomes an experiment and sex becomes a benefit for all. You can even get it wherever and whenever you want it without the commitment. God does not designed sex this way, it was designed to be holy and pure. But what about pleasure?, J. Budziszewski said "But by His design, pleasure is a by-product-an outgrowth of other things that are more important."

Without commitment, control sets in. Unwanted pregnancies leads to unplanned marriages, unplanned marriage leads to separations (in most cases). Decissions controlled by a situation, commitment were set aside. I strongly believe that there is no such thing as accidental pregnancy, whenever there is sexual intercourse, the chance of getting pregnant is high.

"If you love me, you will do it with me", l'm sure this line is familiar, what is wrong about this line is there is a manipulation and control to force a partner to do it out of "love" but it is not. If you love a person, you wait for the right time for this to happen.

Focus on strengthening your relationship minus the physical Intimacies. In case that the relationship does not work, it will be easier for you to move on and let go of the person, (in most cases it applies to women) because you did not gave up your viginity.


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